So, how was your experience with cyber-flirting? Last weeks article invoked a tremendous response from Nerds across throughout the world. The next subject in our Dating advice is on how to deal with rejections. As a nerd starts communicating with others in a social manner, they will invariably come across some people who will be less then appreciative of the Nerd intricacies. You may even find some people down right hostile to the thought of being seen with a Nerd.
Don't be discouraged. The new economy has many aspects that are favorable for the nerds. Can you say IPO? None the less, if you are like most nerds, at one point in your life your romantic endeavors will end in a rejection. Some of those will be polite, some of those will not be.
As compiled by our crack staff of nerdly researchers, these are the top 5 rejections as submitted by Nerds:
5: Go out with you? But you're a Nerd!
4: Who are you again?
3: Go out? Like on a date? no way!
2: Sorry, I can't go with you to the hockey game tomorrow night, its my boyfriend's birthday and we're all going out.
1: I can't go out with you tonight, my dad is making raisin bread tomorrow and needs me to separate the raisins from the raisin bran cereal.
What do you do when you get one of these rejections? First, lets go over what you shouldn’t do. First, don’t go out and buy a spare box of raisins just in case. The chances of someone else using that as an excuse is pretty rare. Second, don’t let the rejection send you into a depression. So the person is not interested in you. That is there loss, not yours.
Determine if there is a validity in the reason the rejection came about. Did you remember to shower this week? Or you wearing the same clothes that you wore back when studio 54 was in vogue? Most nerds would not change their appearance or personality to appease others.
To get over the rejection, some people like to find distractions. Go out and buy yourself a new video game, or upgrade your operating system. Take apart that server that is sitting in your house, and add a new drive. Do something that you can complete and feel a sense of personal accomplishment in. That will get your confidence back up.
Most importantly, move on and keep trying. Seniors in college have a tradition during their spring quarter called Bullet Night. When they get a job rejection letter, you bring the letter down to the local pub and get a free drink for every rejection letter. The person with the best rejection letter wins a prize (Fortunately, we have no employment opportunities for you…) You can start a trend in your local debate or D&D club that when one gets rejected for a date, you all go out and celebrate the rejection. For in that game of life, it is the failures that teach us the most (ya right). Eventually, someone will take the bait. And remember, as we said in high school, revenge will be sweat (ya, I couldn’t spell back then either). When that reunion comes along, and your IPO shares have already vested, who will get the last laugh?
Next week…places to go for nerdly first dates…